Motivation. Everyone’s biggest love and greatest enemy. Even the dreamiest among us, those always looking to the future, see our motivation regularly dry up. It’s a blessing, but an unreliable one. So, through learning how to refill it over the years, I’ve collected a lot of knowledge about how to get motivated (and how to do things even when you’re not!). Today, I’m sharing those tips with you.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw
Connect with your purpose
Our first step in how to get motivated is to reconnect with why you do what you do. Why do you wake up in the morning? Without motivation, it can be easy to fall off your goals, to shun your responsibilities, to shrug, throw your hands in the air and claim that everything’s pointless.
And that’s not an enjoyable (or productive) way to be. Reminding yourself why you care and why doing what you do matters will give you a massive motivation boost. Your why-power is there to help you stick to your goals.
How to connect with your purpose
When it comes to connecting with your purpose, it can be tricky to know where to start, especially if you’ve never had one before. Here, it’s important to ask yourself a few big questions:
- What do you want in life?
- What do you want to be doing?
- How do you want to feel?
You’ll probably have some intuitive ideas, they might not be specific or full-formed, but having some inkling is a great starting point. Don’t expect some grand purpose to surface here (although, if one does – run with it!), your why can be anything.
‘I want to be happy’
‘I want to help others’
‘I want to be healthy’
It’s best to centre your reason around how you want to feel rather than something quantitative, this way as long as you’re a little healthier, happier or whatever-er than you were three months ago, you’re on the right track.
Take the time to write your aims down. I like to ramble my thoughts and ideas into my journal where they can develop and take shape. But you may want to discuss it with a friend or sit and think about it before committing it to paper.
If you read it back and it doesn’t make you excited, rewrite it. This place is reserved only for what sets your soul on fire.
Shake it up
I recently wrote a post about getting out of a rut, which I’d recommend reading after this one for more ways to get back into your groove, but as a summary, when we’re lacking motivation the biggest thing we need is a shake-up. Falling into a rut also causes us to fall into pessimistic mindsets and repetitive autopilot routines. So we stay on the same hamster wheel, running in place with the same mindsets and thoughts, unable to find new motivation.
One of the best ways to refresh your mind is to first refresh your surroundings. Creating a new routine, taking a trip, rearranging your house, taking a new route to work, starting a new hobby – all of these ideas will help to keep your mind from falling back onto autopilot, to help you rewire your thinking.
The main aim here is to start living intentionally. Stop going through the motions and start actively living your life.
It’s game plan time
Maybe it’s just me, but future-planning (honestly, just planning in general) gets me so excited.
Of course, I still fret about the future. Of course, when it comes down to actually doing what I’ve planned, motivation becomes a whole other story, but the planning itself is an exciting step towards a better future. It’s just dreaming – what’s not to love?
It might seem strange for me to include the ‘taking action’ part of the cycle in a post about how to get motivated, but one of the most important lessons I’ve learned about motivation, is that it always comes second. It may feel like you need motivation to take action, but in reality, the reverse is true.
You don’t get motivated in order to move, you get motivated from the fact that you’re moving. Action comes first. So let’s get to planning, shall we?
1) First off, what needs to change?
When you think of your ideal future, what’s different compared to where you are today? Consider your job, where you live, your relationships, your hobbies, your personality traits. When you figure out what you’d like to change, you can start to tackle it, step by step.
Remember to stay compassionate here. Hate and resentment will only hinder your ability to change. This step is highlighting what you’d like to change or saying goodbye to it. That’s all 🙂
2) Next, what’s holding you back?
This is where we have to be really honest with ourselves. Maybe you have some bad habits that need to go or beliefs and fears that keep you from changing. Take some time to note these down and include any defensive or apprehensive thoughts you have throughout the process.
When you’ve noted down each of these, try to brainstorm solutions for each of them and counterarguments for your negative thoughts. How could you practice them? How can you change them? What if this went really well? Again, be constructive, not destructive. You’re evolving, you’re not tearing anything down.
3) Finally, what’s the game plan?
This is where you take your ideas from step one and two and put them into an actual plan. Take step one’s ultimate vision and work backwards, what can you do today that will get you one step closer? Then take step two’s ideas and start planning out when and how you’ll make your changes.
The smaller you break your actions down, the better you’ll be able to tackle them and so, the easier the motivation will come. Motivation snowballs, so whilst some actions may feel small and insignificant, they’re always adding up and contributing to your energy.
There you have it. My simple guide for how to get motivated! The big takeaway here is that before motivation, there must be awareness and action. Motivation won’t have you stand up, but it will keep you going. Action always comes first!
Chase those dreams. Love, Ella-Rose xx