Everybody knows their sun sign, it’s the main focus of astrology and the zodiac you’re likely to know and check if that’s your thing. But astrology can be a lot more complex than that, with planets and houses, rising signs, and even your very own moon sign. While your sun is your outward, shining expression of yourself, your moon sign is more hidden, a deep part of yourself that drives your more subconscious needs, reactions and desires. In more sciencey psychology terms, for those who might not dabble in the fanciful world of astrology, your moon sign is essentially your inner child.
It was only just over a year ago that I found out what my moon sign was and what it meant. When I discovered it, it was one of those beautiful moments where something that just needed a simple, little shift fell into place and made my world make a lot more sense. I’ve spoken before about my stance on astrology not as a science, a rule, or even a truth, but as a flint for inspiration, a potential source of sparks. No matter what your stance on astrology is, read on for more insights into finding and owning your moon sign, if only for the potential epiphany.
“The moon is a loyal companion. It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light. The moon understands what it means to be human. Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.” – Tahereh Mafi
What is a moon sign?
The simple answer: your moon sign is the zodiac that represents your internal traits and personality. It comes from the constellation the moon was passing through the moment you were born and reflects your personality when you’re alone, when you work in solitude, a model for your unconscious, your deepest needs, desires and reactions.
If your sun sign is where you act from, your moon sign is where you react from. Your moon may be a side of yourself you struggle to communicate to the world, that feels peaceful and full when you’re alone, but that is outshone by your sun when you try to share it with others. But of course, it doesn’t have to be, which is what the rest of this blog is all about.
Potential difficulties with your moon sign
Finding my moon sign, as I mentioned earlier, was monumental for me, a shift that unlocked and explained a part of myself I’d never quite understood. I’d often felt a great conflict between who I was alone, which I felt was a truer, fuller version of myself vs who I was with others and could never put my finger on why it was so difficult to translate that person across. I always felt I had much more to give than I was ever able to. It can make socialisation feel lonely, alienating and something I can’t phrase any way but just a little bleh.
For others, that effect may be flipped. Feeling fully yourself, awake, alive and invigorated by the company of others, standing in full brightness of your sun sign, but going cold in your moon. Loneliness, a lack of stimulation, self-motivation, etc, can leave your alone time feeling meaningless and boring.
Finding a healthy balance between your sun and moon will help you feel more well-rounded, more fulfilled and more peaceful with your solar and lunar sides happily coexisting. Let’s jump into that.
How to own your moon sign
Stop resenting your personality and start owning it – apologise when you’re wrong, listen and understand yourself as you would a friend after a fight, praise your own achievements (big and small), work with, not against, your shadow, start taking responsibility for your actions and start doing what you truly care about.
Undoubtedly, there are some traits you want to change or evolve, this is natural and even commendable if the want for change is coming from a good, healthy place. Wanting to change to be more like someone else, for your image or because of other peoples opinions can, in many cases, be unhealthy and leave you always unsatisfied. If you do have traits you want to change, do it mindfully, compassionately and with understanding, as you might a child. First, accept the trait, recognise it, understand it and then, slowly and lovingly, begin to shift it.
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2. Learn more about your signs
Intimately knowing and understanding your signs allows you to better make use of them, to be more compassionate and aware of those that can be damaging, to play to your strengths and work on your weaknesses. When you do become aware of destructive or unhelpful traits, having that background understanding and awareness of them will help you to be responsible for them, apologising when they affect others, and giving yourself the chance to change from a place of wanting to be better, not hating who you are.
When looking into them more deeply, don’t just take the interpretation of people on the internet. People may argue with me on this point, but I don’t believe astrology is an exact science. Deepen your own understandings of your signs and recognise how they manifest themselves in you, specifically.
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3. Recognise where your signs conflict
My sun and moon signs conflict greatly. Laughably, they’re possibly two of the most conflicting signs. As I’ve said, I’ve always felt that battle being waged within me, something I could never figure out. But, since I discovered the idea of a moon sign and found mine so clashing with my sun, I’ve been much better able to face them, knowing who they are and how they attack each other, recognising their clashes and strengths. Fights are much scarier in the dark, illuminated, they become a lot easier to calm.
One thing I love about horoscopes is the characterisation of them, how you can visualise different aspects of yourself, thrown together as some mish-mash, rag-tailed, Guardians of the Galaxy-esq team who despite their differences, somehow manage to work together to be pretty damn awesome.
Your signs may feel conflicting at first, but this isn’t always a bad thing. If you work to understand and appreciate both sides fully, they’ll give you some pretty powerful abilities.
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4. Recognise your strengths
And, of course, there are positives. There will be some ways in which your signs bolster each other’s strengths. Make a list of these, find the common ground and use it to your advantage. Put your energy into things you’re good at (so long as they bring you happiness).
I’m a Capricorn Sun, Leo Moon and I’ve found a number of ways those signs work together to give me some of my best qualities. The hard-working nature of my Cap pairs with the passionate nature of my Leo to make me ambitious. Both of my signs are naturally good leaders. Leos are sensitive, Caps are introspective.
Even a clashing combination of traits can create a brilliant one. As a Cap I like to consider things deeply, to plant, to research and understand, but my Leo likes to be spontaneous, to act impulsively on curiosity – sometimes, admittedly, they clash, but sometimes they help each other out. My Cap saves my Leo from doing anything too stupidly impulsive, my Leo gets my Cap to lighten up and actually act. No matter how different, with understanding, awareness and practice, there’s a way for them to work together – it’s your job to find it.
There, a short intro to moon signs. I’m not an expert in astrology, but it has, even in the light ways I read it, done wonders for giving me small tidbits of ideas, visualisations and epiphanies. With a subject as wibbly-wobbly as astrology, I feel that’s all we can really ask for.
Own that moon. Love, Ella-Rose xx