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What is the Law of Attraction? + How To Use It To Create Your Dream Life

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Imagine everyone in the world as a painter, who with every thought and action paints stroke after stroke of colour and picture onto their canvas. With their imagination alone, they create a picture – translated from their mind, through their fingertips and onto their canvas. That’s how the Law of Attraction was best explained to me. It’s such a pretty image to me and so freeing in that it allows us complete freedom over what we decide to create. We’re all painters, with the power to bring to our canvas anything we desire. It sounds pretty good, so let’s dive into it. What is the Law of Attraction?

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” – Anthony Robbins

What is the Law of Attraction?

The law of attraction can be explained many ways. The principles have shown up in many beliefs, practices, and religions – see the Proverbs 23:7, that reads ‘As a man thinketh in his heart so is he’ or words from the Supreme Buddha, ‘what you have become is what you have thought’. 

But to make this accessible for everyone, I’m going to talk through both a general ‘spiritual’ take (which can be shaped around many religious views) and the more practical, ‘modern’ take. Hopefully at least one will resonate with you.

First, the spiritual version of the Law of Attraction

The spiritual view of the Law of Attraction places God, The Source, The Universe, karma or whatever it is you believe in, as the ‘granter’ of our wishes, as a result of the energy and frequencies we’ve put out into the world and inside of ourselves.

We’re all made of energy, receiving and sending energy out into the world around us, through our thoughts and actions. When our thoughts, actions and wishes are aligned, we send out a powerful amount of energy. The cycle of the world, the universe, karma or other then returns that energy in some form.

We attract that which we focus our energy and attention on, and it’s worth noting that this can be good or bad. Focusing on and energising a negative outcome, for instance, will bring about that outcome, just the same as a positive one would. The granter isn’t aware of good or bad, only of where your energy is spent.

And, the more practical outlook

Another way to look at the Law of Attraction is to look at it practically, so let’s use an example.

Let’s say you’re invited to a party. You’re convinced you won’t have a good time and that nobody ever talks to you at parties. So you don’t make much of an effort to get ready and turn up feeling deflated and negative. This, subconsciously translates into your body language and your responses. You hang close to the corners, giving short answers, arms crossed and looking at the floor. The people at the party sense this – they don’t see you as approachable or interesting and so they don’t approach you. In other words, it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Had you believed you’d have a good time, got excited about going and arrived confident you’d make the most of whatever you encountered, you’d have arrived smiling, looking people in the eye, being friendly and seeming approachable. You’d have had a much better time.

When we really focus on something and believe it can happen we create success. We tend to take more risks, make more effort, be open to and notice more opportunities, better navigate roadblocks and reach out to more resources and people than we would do otherwise.

That is the Law of Attraction. Whether you believe it’s divinely intended or completely down to your own action – it’s simple to see how small shifts can make big differences, simply using your thoughts, perspective and actions.

How to use the Law of Attraction

Accept that you’re responsible for wherever you are in life

This doesn’t mean that you directly caused or chosen everything that’s happened in your life. Nor is it a reason to kick yourself, to look back and wish you’d done better or different. It’s just the idea that regardless of whose fault it technically is, the outcome for us is our responsibility. We have complete control over our actions, our perspective and through those two things, our circumstance.

Accepting where you are and moving forward in the best way possible, will allow you to come to peace with a past that may otherwise plague our insecurities and thoughts and inhibit our future.

Regardless of who you are or where you’ve come from, you have the power to choose every one of your steps going forward. You may walk anywhere you wish on this Earth.

Focus on what you want, not what you lack

Without noticing, we can be liable to conjure up our wishes and desires from a place of lack. This is an idea I’ve come across again and again in spiritual and self-help books and speakers.

Pivot from a mindset rooted in your lack or need for more, to a mindset of abundance. See the world as full with endless possibilities and opportunities. This will not only improve your outlook and perspective on the world, but will make you notice and act on those opportunities more frequently!

Try to spin your negative thoughts and desires into positive ones. “I want a better job” is coming from a place of lack. You don’t feel good enough right now, so you decide you’ll be ‘truly’ happy once you have that better job. It seems trivial, but these thoughts can start to affect how you see yourself and make your goal seem more and more unattainable. Flipping your thought to something like “I will get X job”, puts you in a positive mindset, reaffirming that you’re capable and you’ll do whatever it takes to get there.


Visualisation is a really powerful tool for a number of things:

  • Developing your vision and ideas
  • Getting more specific about your goals
  • Believing that it is possible for you to reach your goals
  • Inspiring and motivating yourself

And it can be done in any number of ways. You could daydream about your goals (I find this particularly effective when running), write them down, draw them, collect images that resonate with your goals and create dream boards or speak to a friend about them. The possibilities are endless.

Fall in love with what you already have

One of the actions most frequently associated with the Law of Attraction is gratitude. And I love this. Being grateful for what you already have is such a simple way to find peace and happiness every day. And what did we say about good energy, eh? Like attracts like.

Say you have the goal of buying a house. One thing you can do to try to align yourself with getting that house, is to care for the space you’re already in. It may not be your end goal, but it’s a step along the way and is something you can still learn a lot from. Try decorating and experimenting with your current space.

This way, when you do finally get that house, you’ll appreciate the space, you’ll know how to care for it, you’ll have figured out the styles you like and you’ll be able to make it the place you’ve always dreamt of.

Surround yourself with inspiration

I can’t tell you how helpful this one is for me. I’ve said it before, but I draw a lot of energy from my environment. Having reminders about what I’m aiming keeps me inspired, motivated and reminds me to enjoy and be grateful for the journey I’m on.

Take action! (you’re the artist, remember?)

A common misconception, and a very entertaining episode of It’s Always Funny In Philadelphia (if you know, you know), says that if you know what you want and act positive about it, then your new car, new house and the job you’ve always wanted will magically fall into your lap the next day. Well, miracles do happen, but that’s really not how this works.

Visualisation and positive thinking is a fundamental part of the Law of Attraction, but you do need to take action too. You’re the artist, remember? The Law of Attraction provides help and opportunities for you, but making the jump is still down to you. Do whatever you can to move closer to your goal and give it your all.

Obstacles are inevitable

The road will always be blocked somewhere, but facing obstacles is how we learn. Obstacles are things we need to overcome – if you let them, they’ll always teach you something.

If obtaining your goal was smooth sailing, you wouldn’t be prepared when you arrived at your dream. It’s necessary to fall. So try to handle obstacles with as much grace as you can. Keep your chin up, your positivity in the driver’s seat and your feet placing one in front of the other.

Don’t get too hung up on the path

When I’ve written blogs on how to set goals or how to stick to them, I’ve always made the point that breaking your tasks up and planning out your path is really beneficial. And I stand by that. It helps you to prepare for the ups and downs and to keep moving, one step at a time.

But I think the Law of Attraction is a good reminder that we shouldn’t be too attached to that plan. Obstacles and opportunities arise out of nowhere. holding on too tightly to your original plan will make it difficult for you to navigate your way through them. The magic of life is that you may end up with a completely different outcome to what you set out for, your soul captured by something you could never have imagined along the way.

Be set on your goal, but remain open to new possibilities. You never know where they might lead you.

You will find everything that sparks joy in your heart ✨ Love, Ella-Rose xx

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  • Emily Wells

    I have never fully understood the Law of Attraction. I have heard about it a lot but never sat down and read a post about it. Thank you for sharing, I think perhaps this is something I should look into doing this. I think this is a really positive post and I am so glad you shared it! I love the concept!

    Em x

    • Ella

      Thank you! This is such a lovely comment. I’m glad you enjoyed the post and could take something away from it. There’s so many different explanations and ways of using it, it’s definitely a great one to research. Thanks so much for visiting and commenting! 🙂

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