No matter what you believe in, it’s important to recognise the importance of faith. Even if you don’t call yourself spiritual, religious, or otherwise, you still have a belief system about the world, certain rules and principles that you believe in, even if they go nameless.
We all feel a little lost sometimes. We can’t, very often, put our finger on exactly what’s off, we just know it’s something. So, we continue, hoping that it’s our habits, our sleep schedule, a rut, or some other dial that just needs to be eased back into alignment.
Sometimes it is. But, sometimes it isn’t.
Sometimes, no matter how much you shape your environment, the inside world remains unhappy. It’s not always turbulent or strikingly obvious. More often than not, in place of a raging thunderstorm is a light drizzle that soaks ever so slowly into our foundations and hibernates as the damp spreads. Which means it isn’t always awful, but it is slowly affecting us. Just a little leak, where our inspiration, excitement and hope seem to be escaping us.
I’d been battling with this recently, tussling with feeling disconnected, like the world keeps playing, but I’m watching in black and white, and mute. I’d lost my sparkle. But, as always, something cropped up. In my search for inspiration and ways to get back into my groove, I stumbled across the quote:
“It’s not what you believe in that matters, just that you do”.
And I realised I’d completely lost touch with my faith. I hadn’t given it a single thought in months. I’d never dedicated to any particular faith or philosophy, I’d always just approached religion, spirituality, and philosophy with curiosity and an open mind, seeing the same ideas pop up with different faces.
But, I have very strong principles, and I found my faith in my belief in people and the world. I fell in love with the shape of spirituality. The fanciful imagery, the symbolism, the nature of the practices and words that every teaching soul seemed to harbour. It’s unique to everyone, which makes it hard to define, but the pieces I used to build my beliefs centred around my love for, and pursuit to, connect with the energy and beauty of the world and its inhabitants. That’s where I find my sparkle.
But, what we’re looking at today is fit for anyone, no matter what you believe in. If you’re feeling grooveless or out of touch, this one’s for you.
“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.” – J. M. Barrie
We need something bigger than ourselves
As human beings, we need something bigger than ourselves to concentrate on. When we get too wrapped up in our one-person narratives, we spiral, thinking every problem into a gigantic, unstoppable monster. We feel wronged and hopeless, faulted and broken. We’re not built to be solitary figures.
By placing your faith in something outside of yourself, your everyday approach to life becomes simpler, calmer and healthier.
Take the idea of manifestation, for example. If you set an intention to obtain something and believe that brute-force hard work and taking complete control is the only way you’re going to get there, you’re going to tire yourself out. You’re going to stress. You’re going to doubt yourself and give up early. You’ll hold onto the idea so tightly that it’ll evade your grip.
Instead, choose to share the manifestation your goal with something outside of yourself, whatever that may be, and promise to align yourself as well as you can to obtain those things and catch the opportunities you’re given, and you’ll find the whole process becomes a lot easier.
Opportunity comes in all forms
The brute-force way of thinking will also encourage you to block out opportunities that don’t look quite like what you pictured. Ever spend ages looking for something, only to find it the minute you stop looking? Same principle here.
Say you have your eye on a new job and you’re aligning yourself with receiving it, you’re going to networking events, learning everything you can in your current role, doing research, applying for jobs, reaching out to recruiters. You’re opening yourself up to a wealth of opportunities, whether they’re the one you set out for or not.
1) that as you work harder in your current role, you’re offered better positions in the company you already work for
2) that you fall in love with the job you’re already in and realise you don’t want to change
3) find yourself presented with an entirely new opportunity you’d never imagined and find the job of your dreams
4) are presented with the exact opportunity you’d hoped for and snap it up
Take ownership of how you can make a difference
Placing your faith in something else might seem like an excuse to put your feet up, but it’s really not – these things won’t simply be delivered, silver platter and all, to your door. The importance of faith is that it takes care of the things you can’t control, but no more than that – you still need to take responsibility for what you can.
You need to be ready for that new job when it comes and increase your chances of a good job finding its way to you. Making sure you’re always learning, connecting with new people, going to new events, even ensuring you have all the right documents ready and tidied. You never know what could come your way, so it’s your job to make sure you’re the best you can be at any moment. Life will throw opportunities at you, but you need to ensure you’re in the best place to catch them (and you’d do well to have bought yourself a net too).
Faith is a friend
One of the simplest benefits I always hear of from people going through therapy is that a therapist will often act as a source of help that’s completely separate from everyone and everything going on in your life. They don’t know your friends, your family, your co-workers – they only know you and what you’re facing. Which means they’re well-placed to give you helpful, unbiased, advice and provide a sanctuary where you can talk about your life, outside of your every day.
This is the same type of relationship you can create with faith. Speak to what, or who, you believe in, bodiless or not. Seek refuge, advice and guidance. That’s the importance of faith, it’s always there and it’s completely personal.
Even if you don’t believe in anything divine, talking to something (even if it’s writing in a journal, to a camera or aloud to yourself) and believing in it, will help you break down the barriers and filters you usually put up when thinking. Whether you believe the advice comes from a third party or from yourself, you’ll be better able to access it and believe in it.
Look for yellow cars
One interesting exercise you can do to practice the importance of faith in everyday life is to ask your whom-, or what-, -ever to show you more yellow cars. Where those cars come from is for you to decide, but I can guarantee that you’ll notice more of them.
When you ask for more good things in your life, for more happy moments or something specific, know that if you truly believe you will be given those things (so long as you too make the effort to align yourself with them) they’ll find their way to you. You’ll see the signs, you’ll get closer, you’ll find the opportunities. Believe and trust.
That, I think is what I find so incredible about life. I’ve always treated religion, faiths, beliefs and sciences to be our various ways of explaining the same phenomena – and that’s the brilliant thing about humans and the true importance of faith. What you believe in is real simply because you believe it is. Hopefully that brings you some peace.
Keep believing. Love, Ella-Rose xx